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Are You the "Self" You Should be?

In the mid-1500s, Nicolaus Copernicus theorized the Earth, along with the other planets, rotated around the sun .  This  Heliocentric theory took about 100 years to become widely accepted.  Up until that point, the G eocentric theory  first proposed by Ptolemy in the mid 100s A.D was what was widely accepted.  In this theory, the planets and the sun rotated around Earth.  It took a long time for people to understand and accept this change.  It wasn't a smooth process either; people were persecuted for their heliocentric position.   Why am I referencing something from over 500 years ago you ask?  Two reasons:                      1) It has become somewhat commonplace to question and distrust the validity of science in favor of unscientific, and oftentimes divisive rhetoric.  It appears more widely accepted to believe a talking-head's opinion rather than the methodical,...

How is Your Mental Health?

  How is Your Mental Health? May is National Mental Health Awareness Month .  Beginning in 1949, Mental Health Month has put a spotlight on the importance of mental health and wellness.  There is such a stigma attached to mental illness or mental health in general, that over 70 years of advocacy and education have yet to overcome.  While 1 in 5 people will experience mental illness at some point in their lifetimes, everyone has faced or will face struggles and challenges that affect their mental health.  You don't have to be diagnosed by a doctor or therapist to know if you're mental health is compromised.   Anxiety:   Intense, excessive, and persistent worry and fear about everyday situations. Some symptoms include: Fast heart rate, rapid breathing, sweating, and feeling tired. Stress:    Any type of change that causes physical, emotional, or psychological strain. Stress is your body's response to anything that requires attention or ac...

"Show Me The Way to Stay Home"

Jaws is a classic horror film released in 1975.  It tells the story of a homicidal, Great White Shark, (a Carcharodon Carcharias if you please) who terrorizes Amity Island.  For the first half of the movie the shark was not seen, he was practically invisible.  If it wasn't for the music we wouldn't even know he was on the prowl.  The town council was in denial about the danger of this man-eater, it was a boating accident, a swimmer just got tired and drowned, whatever, they never had a problem with sharks in these waters...Chief Brody knew better, Hooper declared this was no boating accident, that it was, in fact, a shark, and it will continue to kill people unless the beaches are closed and they do something about this shark.   But Mayor Vaughn said Amity is a summer town and they need summer dollars. To further deflect the situation, he implored Brody to go after the vandal who painted a shark fin on their billboard, THAT was the real prob...

Men and Anxiety

Men and Anxiety Having anxiety is a normal part of everyday living.  You may have anxiety facing a problem at work or before taking a test in school.  This level of anxiety is temporary and usually situation specific.  The anxiety becomes a problem when it does not go away, gets worse over time, and interferes with daily activity such as job performance , school activities, and relationships. Our culture expects men to be strong at all times, so they are especially reluctant to seek treatment for anxiety.  Even if they acknowledge something is wrong, they will probably just label it as "stress" and try to manage their problems on their own, or look physical causes, such as heart problems.  The idea that men are too strong to experience anxiety can leave some feeling embarrassed and isolated.  With anxiety, too much time alone can often exacerbate emotions and make things worse,  Pride can also get in the way of asking for help. Another mistake...

Is it Getting Better, or Do You Feel the Same?

To Where You Are Artist - Josh Groban | Lyrics - Richard Marx and Linda Thompson Fly me up to where you are Beyond the distant star I wish upon tonight To see you smile If only for awhile to know you're there A breath away's not far To where you are It has been three years since my father passed away and it feels like it was yesterday...but also a lifetime ago at the same time.  I have said that I live in an alternate universe since he's been gone; nothing is the same, nothing will ever be the same.  I think about him from time to time, there are reminders of him everywhere.  He left his imprint on this world, not just in the hearts and minds of myself, my sister and our families, but in the many many people he helped over the years (he was a therapist too), and those he worked with. He entrusted in all that he has touched, the promise that we would move on, better our lives, and try, as he did, to leave this world better than it was.   ...

I-I Me-Me Mine...The Case for Being "Selfish"

"I Me Mine" by The Beatles was written by George Harrison.  It was said that he wrote the song as a commentary on the selfishness of bandmates John Lennon and Paul McCartney.  They were in the middle of recording songs for the Let It Be documentary film.  George felt they had better things to do then learn the arrangement for this song, and appeared indifferent to recording it that struck him as "sheer egotism".  I guess it wasn't much of a surprise when the band broke up soon afterwards!! I guess the Dark Horse was onto something there, huh...having to deal with such egotists, so full of themselves they couldn't support their bandmate and just record his song with the kind of gusto that made The Beatles' earlier work legendary.  Or maybe John and Paul were onto something...hmmm...maybe they were trying to take care of themselves, something called self-preservation . Self-preservation:  In it's most simplistic definition, it refers to a se...