SPace's PsychoHealth Blog

'Tis the season to be jolly... Fa-La-La-La Let's talk about the holiday season shall we?  For years I have noticed the day after we put our Halloween costumes away, the Christmas music and decorations start up.  COME ON, REALLY?!?!? I just finished watching Night of the Living Dead and now It's a Wonderful Life?!?!  Can we take a little break and enjoy Fall for a little longer?  I mean, we haven't even had Thanksgiving yet!  And don't get me started about Thanksgiving...Ok, I'm getting started...I understand Black Friday has been around for awhile, but why does it have to start ON Thanksgiving???  The one holiday that traditionally has been a gathering of friends and family to enjoy food (and football) with no expectations other than maybe bring a dish, and keep Uncle Bob from whizzing in the fireplace.   Are the stores really making that much of a difference getting "into the black" by opening ON Thanksgiving Day?? (Yeah I'm talking to...

Woody and Buzz Lightyear figured out how to be friends by the end of Toy Story I...after Buzz learned he wasn't a real Space Ranger, but a child's play thing..."YOU ARE A TOYYEEEE!!"  Still Woody saw the good in him and befriended him.   The term "friend" has come up many times in my practice and in my personal life as well.   I hear it all the time, "my friend <so and so>".  Oh, when was the last time you saw or spoke to him(or her)?  Oh, not since high school...oh not since 1st grade!  So is there a statute of limitations on being someone's friend when the friendship is not in use?  Does it need to be renewed every few years, or it expires?  Is that a lifetime title you are giving that person?  What do they need to do in order to maintain that title?  Do they need to make a phone call every few years to keep it active?  Will a text message saying "Hey" do? I don't know why I find this fascinating but I d...

"Breaking Up Is Hard To Do" -Neil Sedaka Don't take your love away from me Don't you leave my heart in misery If you go then I'll be blue 'Cause breaking up is hard to do I know I am dating myself here with a Neil Sedaka song, but I thought it was fitting for this topic.  You don't need to go download the song on iTunes or wherever, unless you really want to.  But be warned, next thing you know you'll be listening to all of his tunes, singing them in the car, or while you're working out in the gym!!  Very catchy tunes!  😱  (Yeah that's him over there! ) I have worked with many clients with various relationship issues but none has been more difficult then addressing the aftermath of a break-up.  Regardless of which side of the break-up you are on, coping with it can be extremely difficult, if not traumatic.  While the relationship is over, some may experience grief-like symptoms as a result.  Typically I hear people ...

"Saying No"  -Pearl Jam He says to her he wants it easy He expects her, to be easy He wants it, to be, easy But she says no, but she says no, I don't want to She says no, she says no, I don't want to He expects it too, easy... But she says stop, you gotta stop When he says go, you still gotta stop When she says stop, you gotta stop When he says go, you still gotta stop... I am not proclaiming to be an expert on sexual assault or rape, nor do I specialize in it in my practice.  But from time to time I do see clients who have been the victim of rape.  It incenses me and frightens me every time I hear about it.  I see how scared and embarrassed and helpless they are and just imagine this happening to my daughter.  I don't know what I would do if this happened to her, but as a professional to my clients, I want justice for them.  I want them to see the perpetrator held accountable for their heinous actions.  I want my...